fix(smtp): proper SMTP dialogue, encoded mails, optional skip-verify

- Explicit SMTP flow (dial -> EHLO -> STARTTLS -> AUTH -> MAIL/RCPT/DATA)
  with errors naming the refusing step (also logged as smtp_step)
- EHLO with the sender's domain instead of "localhost"
- Envelope gets the bare address; "Name <addr>" stays in the From header
  (was rejected as invalid MAIL FROM)
- Date and Message-ID headers, RFC 2047 subject, quoted-printable body
- SMTP_SKIP_VERIFY / admin switch for self-signed certificates;
  SMTP checkboxes are switches now
- Tests against a fake SMTP server (STARTTLS, 451, display names)

Co-Authored-By: Claude Opus 5.5 <noreply@anthropic.com>

.env.example

@@ -17,3 +17,5 @@ SMTP_USER=
 SMTP_PASS=
 SMTP_FROM=noreply@mindsift.local
 SMTP_TLS=true
+# Only for internal mail servers with self-signed certificates
+SMTP_SKIP_VERIFY=false